As one of the many Assisted Reproduction alternatives currently available, In Vitro Fertilization has enabled millions of women around the world to consolidate their dream of becoming mothers, even when they are at an advanced reproductive age.
Read the story of Claudia, who had her little Emilio shortly before her 50th birthday, thanks to a multi-cycle IVF program; and if you are also thinking about the possibility of having a baby and if you are 35 years old or older, read on and don't give up!
"I'm going to be 50 years old and I still find it amazing that I have managed to become a mother. The second time I was inseminated at another fertility clinic and it didn't work, it was disappointing, it was so painful that we stopped trying.
Some people can be very hurtful, and of course they don't mean to be, because they don't know what it means to go through a situation like this. My family and a couple of our friends more or less had an idea of what it was like, and yet they would ask me things like this all the time: 'Are you sure you can have a baby at your age, are you really not afraid of it, what's going to happen when it grows up? What's going to happen when it grows up? It's going to be like you're his grandmother, isn't it?
It's not something you're just telling, maybe it would be better but people don't know, they didn't know either, but we spent 5 years trying to have a child.
My husband and I realized that we could not do it without help from the first year. We came to the gynecologist, had 2 artificial insemination treatments, during the first one we were very happy and it didn't happen, we were very disappointed.
It was sad, but the second time it was much worse, horrible, very painful, and that's why we talked and decided to stop trying. But after a while, talking to a friend of my husband's, she told us that she had her baby here, with the help of the Institute, and that's how we decided to try again.
When we arrived, our doctors said that my age was not an obstacle, that the whole issue of the biological clock is not as many people think because it was possible to have a child after the age of 35. I believed him, he gave us hope and that's when we started our IVF treatment.
I was in Cancun, we were travelling when my doctor called me to tell me that we had to go back to do the IVF transfer and we went back immediately. Three weeks later I cheated, because they insisted that we didn't try home tests but, you know, I was dying to see that stick with two little lines on it.
So I cheated, yes, I took a pregnancy test and it was positive, we finally did it! After that I went for a blood test because I wanted to be sure, after everything you go through you can't believe it, but that one confirmed it!
The first heartbeat you hear is music to your ears, it sounds so fast and you know it's real, that's when you realise that Assisted Reproduction is not science fiction, and that you can have your baby with IVF, believe me! I did it and it is completely real.
For our pregnancy we wanted to stay there too, we went to another doctor, a maternal-fetal specialist, and I felt the most powerful when we were told that our medical appointments would now be on that side.
During one of my ultrasounds the doctor said to me: 'Look at your baby, you can even see his eyelashes!' At the time I could only think that he was fine, but when he was born he had the biggest eyelashes in the world, even bigger than me and I thought 'Those little eyes, those little eyelashes, that's my son!' Seeing him, meeting him and feeling him after he was born was just wonderful.
Life has changed me completely, and when I hear her say, 'Mom,' God, it makes my heart swell with pride! I am a mum, and today, I feel complete. We feel totally fulfilled because, my husband and I were already happy, a family but, there is no point of comparison with the happiness we have now seeing her growing up with him.
To wake up early every day to see him, to see him smile at me, to see him laugh so much and then sleep so peacefully... he is everything I wanted to have, he is my love, my Emilio; when I see his gaze I remember everything I have been through and it fills me with strength, I know I can overcome any obstacle that is put in front of me.
With In Vitro Fertilization I became a mother and with him I have been able to appreciate every little moment, every instant, every effort and all the work my husband and I have put in over the last 5 years. I carry him with me all the time, I have his picture on a necklace that I always wear around my neck, he and I will be together forever".
If you want to become a mother and you are 35 or older, we want to tell you that thousands of women decided to postpone motherhood for the precise moment when they were ready, and today the biological clock is no longer an impediment to achieve it .
In case you are that age or older and you are trying to have a baby but it has not been possible yet, it is important that you go to a doctor specialized in fertility and Human Reproductive Biology, who will evaluate your reproductive health and provide you with Assisted Reproduction alternatives with the best chances of success, such as In Vitro fertilization.
At Ingenes, we have an Initial Program for all women who want to experience motherhood after the age of 35 and are willing to do everything to achieve it. A program that focuses on identifying the causes that are preventing you from achieving that dream and drawing up a personalized treatment plan, carried out by a team of expert embryologists, andrologists, gynecologists with a subspecialty in Reproductive Biology and psychotherapists, among others.
Reach out to us, tell us your story here and let us help you bring your baby home.
"My experience with Ingenes was very calming all because of the staff, they were welcoming and made you feel at ease with everything."
Ingenes McAllen, TX.