Maria del Carmen is 50 years old, her husband is 58 and they both wanted to have a baby, but to achieve this they had to have a tubal ligation pregnancy, as she had previously decided not to have any more children. Changing her mind and wanting to experience motherhood at an advanced reproductive age is the desire of millions of women around the world, and today it is possible thanks to Assisted Reproduction.
Learn the story of this couple who, after suffering the loss of a first pregnancy and despite having visited other fertility clinics where they "had their wings clipped", became the proud parents of 2 babies, with the help of a multi-cycle In Vitro Fertilization treatment.
"I am 50 years old and I thought I would never be able to become a mother again. I was a single mother, I have a 27-year-old daughter and a 22-year-old son. I had an operation to avoid having more babies, but life takes many turns and throws a lot of things in your way.
They say if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans, don't you? Although I thought that motherhood and love was something that had been left behind, some time passed and I met my current husband, we have been together for 14 years now and we love each other very much. He is 58 years old, and he also has a son, 36.
We wanted to have a baby for both of us and that's why we signed up to go to a fertility clinic. When we arrived, we were told that I could only have my pregnancy with tubal ligation if we underwent IVF treatment.
We did it that way and I got pregnant, but my baby didn't grow and I had to have an operation to terminate my pregnancy, which left us very hurt. Only those of us who have gone through a loss like this know how much it affects us. My husband and I grieved for 4 years after that, we were very hurt.
One day, going to the capital of Querétaro for the groceries and other things, I saw that the Institute was there. We passed several times in front of the building, thinking, commenting and discussing whether or not to go there, until I convinced my husband and we spoke to make an appointment.
During that first appointment we felt that the treatment was very professional, they did tests on both of us and then-then they detected something, and this apart from the fact that I was going to have my pregnancy with tubal ligation. It turns out that I had a bacteria in my blood, and in fact, this was what was causing me to miscarry.
I was given medication to treat the bacteria, and at the same time we were prepared to start our Assisted Reproduction treatment. We chose the program with 4 IVF cycles and money back in case of no success, which made us much more relaxed.
My transfer was a beautiful experience, I would say it was the highlight of the whole treatment, without a doubt! I had 3 little embryos, I was very, very nervous, but I was also very excited.
Although the doctor told me that I could go on with my normal life, after the transfer I didn't even want to walk, I didn't make any sudden movements and I stopped working for 8 days; it was like a fear of mine, I thought that I had to do absolutely everything on my part, and if I needed to stay in bed and only move to go to the bathroom, I would do so.
I took the pregnancy test, and later that day the doctor called me and said, 'You're pregnant, and it looks like 2!' Oh my God, I was so excited, my husband and I screamed, we didn't even wait to tell her the news, it was such a thrill!
I was afraid, I thought about my 50 years and if my body could handle it, but then I thought: 'If God is sending them to me, if he decided that they should stay in my womb, that means that I can do it and that he will leave them to me'.
The day my babies were born I started crying as soon as I saw them, I was so nervous before the day arrived and because of everything that had happened, I even forgot their names! My husband was going crazy at the birth, he was the one who cut the cord! It was a beautiful moment.
Yetzel and Adriel, that's the name of my babies, and they turned my life upside down, nothing to do with what I remembered being a mum, it's not the same when they are two at once, it's never the same, they always teach you something new.
I was expecting them and I knew they would come, at some point and in some way, I don't know how, but they would come. It still seems incredible to me that I had my pregnancy with tubal ligation, I am so glad I didn't take my finger out of the window and insisted. They gave birth to my house, and I thank them for choosing me as their mother.
There are many fertility clinics and gynecologists who clip our wings, because of a bad diagnosis, because of our age or because of the decisions we make in our lives, but yes we can, our stars in the sky do exist, and yes it is possible to bring them down with the help of the right fertility specialists, of God, and also by doing our bit. I love my 4 children and I want them to know that this is how it will be here and to infinity, today and always wherever I am.
In case you too are trying to get pregnant with tubal ligation and have not yet been successful, it is important that you see a Reproductive Biology specialist to assess the full state of your reproductive health.
At Ingenes we have an Initial Program for all women, like you, who want to become mothers and are willing to do everything to achieve it. A program that focuses on identifying the causes that have prevented you from achieving that dream before, and drawing up a personalized Assisted Reproduction treatment plan.
More than a fertility clinic, we are the institute that has successfully treated the largest number of cases in all of Latin America, all thanks to our IVF laboratories, continuous research processes and state-of-the-art technology.
Each case is closely monitored by a full team of medical and scientific experts: embryologists, andrologists, gynaecologists with a subspecialty in reproductive biology, biologists and psychotherapists, among others.
We are sure that this is the path that will lead you to your own little star. Reach out and tell us your story, we'll help you write the best part with your baby at home.
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